Labor and baby birth The worries every new parent
Being a new parent is far from easy
Being a new parent means happiness and lots of love. The mixed emotions that you feel when you hold that little bundle of joy for the first time cannot be described, and only new parents can understand these feelings. But, besides the unlimited love you feel with all of your heart, being a new parent is far from easy.
From finding out how much the baby must eat, to understanding what to do about that diaper rash, all new parents have a lot of baby related questions and worries. If you’re one of them you must know you’re not alone. Raising a little baby is a real life challenge.
Do you remember the worries you had related to your 40 weeks of pregnancy? Now, as a new parent, your worries will multiply. But there are ways to ease your baby’s distress and also your mind. Here are things all new parents worry about, and some tips on how to overcome them.
The sleepless nights
Did you hear the phrase “sleeping like a baby”? And if you did, do you know what it really means? When we say we slept like a baby what we really mean is that we had a sound, and comfortable sleep. But, if we think about it, babies don’t sleep like that at all. Even if you manage to get the baby to sleep, you never know when and how much will he sleep, but you can help and encourage his sleep.
You can do this by creating a bedtime ritual. It’s a sure fact that babies need routine. If your baby goes to bed at a consistent time every evening, he will fall asleep easier. If your baby wakes up crying, soothe your baby into sleep by breastfeeding or bottle feeding him. Do this until he’s sound asleep, and put him into bed. Now you can rest too.
If you baby wakes up again in the middle of the night crying, see what’s bothering him, and try to comfort him. Maybe he just wants to be fed, or he needs a diaper change.
Scared of SIDS & the panic over everything
Many new parents are scared to lose their babies to SIDS, even if it is a rare medical problem. My advice is to just be happy, and enjoy every moment with your baby. You can also follow some measures to reduce SIDS. Stop smoking around your baby, because it is one of the risk factors for SIDS. Also, it is important to not let others smoke near your baby.
Keep your baby safe while sleeping. Try and provide a safe sleeping environment by avoiding surfaces he could sink into. Also put your baby to sleep on his back. Sleeping on his back also reduces the risk of SIDS.
As for the panic over everything: Babies need to be safe, and handling a newborn needs extra care. This stage can be a very nervous one for a new parent. It takes some time adjusting to your baby’s needs, such as bathing, and feeding. Many new parents worry about everything, from the baby’s poop to SIDS. What you need to do is to stay calm, and not to worry so much about everything. Trust me, you will eventually figure it out.
Balancing work and family
When we return to work, we start to worry about maintaining the same close relationship with our baby. The important thing is not to let the emotional distance interfere with your feelings.
There are a few ways to help you balance work and family. It helps if you share your home-duties with your partner. This way you will both have time to spend with your little one. You can also make departure easier by cuddling your baby. It is also important to bond with him when you come back home.
Worrying about the crying
As parents, we’ve all been there. You hear your baby crying at 5 a.m. You feed him, change him, and cuddle him until he falls asleep. You place him in his crib, and you get back to sleep. After a while, he begins to cry again. Now you begin to worry. What’s wrong with him?
There will be times when you don't know why your baby is crying. It’s ok. The important thing is not to panic. All babies cry at some point, and some cry more than others. Because you may not always figure out why your baby is crying, here are a few common reasons:
- A soiled diaper;
- Teething pain, or digestive issues;
- Loneliness and boredom.
See if your baby’s crying due to one of the reasons above. If he’s not, ask yourself what could be the problem. You’ll figure it out.
Not losing the baby weight
Is one of your goals to lose that belly weight within two months after birth? Then you have to see the reality. Stop watching all the news about how Hollywood stars did loose their weight after just six weeks. It just doesn’t happen this way, or this fast.
New moms are advised to refrain from exercise until the six week checkup. Embrace your new belly shape and think about you’ve created in 40 weeks. Isn’t this feeling the most beautiful thing in the world?
As many women struggle to reclaim their pre-baby weight, you must know that a pregnancy weight will not disappear in a flash. It should take as long as your pregnancy (around 10 months) to lose that weight, so start counting, and, if you have your doctor’s ok, start exercising.
Spoiling the baby
If you are one of the parents that worry about spoiling the baby too much, you have to stop. If your baby cries, hold him, because if he cries he tries to tell you something. This is his way to communicate. Maybe through crying he tries to tell you that something’s wrong. So, go on, and soothe your little one.
There are studies that recently disproved the theory that holding a baby too much or responding promptly to his cries would make him too clingy, and needy. But, as your baby gets older, your response can also come a little later. At six months of age, you will definitely can soothe him by talking, or just by your body language. Delaying will also help your baby learning how to soothe himself.
Giving your baby cow milk too early
All babies have a delicate digestive system. That’s why they need easy-digestible milk, like breastmilk. A hard-digestible milk is the cow’s milk. It is highly concentrated with proteins and minerals. It also contains lactose, which young children are not able to digest.
Doctors suggest to start giving cow’s milk to our children by the age of one. Although some children do well with cow’s milk before their 1st birthday, for others it may be too soon. If you want to do this, check with your pediatrician.
Can I do it all? & Am I a good parent?
Many parents have worries about not being capable to do it all. Well, it is a fact that the more time your spend with your little one, the easier parenting becomes. By exercising, you’ll learn how to quickly change that diaper, and even what’s the right temperature for your baby’s bath.
You have to allow yourself time to learn on your own. Your baby is a lovely little creature, but he can create more work for you than you think you can handle. Well, believe it or not, you can! The more you spend time with your little one, the easier it will get.
And finally: if you are responsive to your baby’s signs then you’ve got what it takes to be a good parent. You may not always figure out what your baby wants, or needs, but you can be a good parent by caring, and trying. You can’t be a perfect parent. Just relax and ease up on yourself. Your baby will love you no matter what. You are the most important person to him, and that’s good enough.
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